Is Self-Compassion just a warm and fluffy experience?

Why is self-compassion good for us?

There seems to be a view that self-compassion is just a soft and fluffy thing to do – like cuddling a soft rabbit.

Cuddly Rabbits!

Cuddly Rabbits!

There are some hard facts out there. According to Kristin Neff, one of the world’s leading researchers into self-compassion, research strongly indicates that self-compassion offers emotional resiliency.

People who are self-compassionate are:

Less anxious

Less depressed

Less stressed

Less perfectionistic – they are not constantly beating themselves up if they make a mistake

Self-compassionate people tend to have a more comfortable relationship with their bodies which includes experiencing less shame about not having a perfect body. This is something I have found. It’s not easy for me because I have a lot of hang ups about the way I look and as I age it gets harder still. Developing my self-compassion has enabled me to ride the wrinkles, the downward trend of my body with more kindness and far less self-criticsm than I used to have when I was much younger.

Self-compassion is also equally strongly related to positive states related to happiness, optimism, self-confidence, life satisfaction, curiosity, creativity. Self-compassion offers a path to more joy and happiness!

Research shows SC is powerfully predictive of psychological well-being.

What else do you need to convince yourself to give self-compassion a try?!

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3 Responses to Is Self-Compassion just a warm and fluffy experience?

  1. Kate says:

    I wanted to post this email I received from Claire as I thought it was a wonderful example of using self-compassion in difficult times and Claire was kind enough to agree to my request.
    Hi Kate

    I went on a course at the weekend on Dissociative Identity Disorder. One of the interesting points that came across from the lady delivery the course (who was a DID survivor) was her use of self-compassion. She was saying that when she was hard on herself when she was triggered she was only re-inforcing the abuse she had suffered at an earlier age. When she learnt to be kind to herself and accept the different parts of herself that needed to surface in order to relate to the childhood abuse it was then that she was able to learn more and to gain more conscious control over her triggers. I thought it was a really positive example of when self-compassion at work.

    Kind regards


  2. Kate says:

    Absolutely Anne – we are never too young or too old to learn the value of self-compassion. How wonderful that you are seeing the potential that this can bring to your life. x

  3. Anne Kennedy says:

    At the age of 54 I am only just realising the importance of showing more compassion towards myself. The only way is up!

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